First Step To Implement Change

by Lisa on March 8, 2010

Finding My Way© Mind Map

Most business coaching clients with whom I work are ready for some kind of change in their lives. They know they are ready because they’re dissatisfied; what’s worked in the past isn’t working any more. They are unwilling to accept the status quo going forward.

As you grow and become more conscious of your life and what you’re capable of creating, excitement builds about the possibilities. It’s at that point some many people become stalled and revert back to their old ways — the ways that no longer work for them. What happens? They don’t know what they want to do, so they don’t do anything. Except the same old thing. The midlife reinvention gets put on hold. Again.

That’s why I developed Finding My Way© Mind Map. It builds on 6 important topic areas to create your new path and make your way to reinvention.

6 Topic Areas in Creating Change

Money

  • How much money do you want to make?
  • How much responsibility are you willing to accept?
  • What’s the minimum amount you would accept and be satisfied with?

Geography

  • Where do you want to live?
  • Are you already there?
  • Where can you envision yourself living?

People Environment

  • Who do you want to work with?
  • Business to Business?
  • Consumers?
  • People with advanced degrees?
  • Children?
  • Who are you passionate about serving?

My Special Skills

  • List minimum 10 items.
  • What activities do you enjoy?
  • What are your hobbies/interests?
  • What’s something you’ve always wanted to do?
  • Maybe it’s something you did long ago.
  • What specifically do you like to do?

Values & Legacy

  • What is vitally important to you?
  • What else?
  • List minimum 5 items.
  • How would you like to be remembered?
  • What values have you buried?

Work Environment

  • Large or small company?
  • Do you want to start your own business?
  • Corporate or non-profit?
  • Are you willing to travel?
  • Are you willing to take entrepreneurial risks?
  • Do you want to develop a business on the side?
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What Is Midlife?

by Lisa on March 1, 2010

A friend of mine asked me recently:

What is midlife? Does it mean you must be in your forties? After all, I’m only 35, but I feel dissatisfied with what used to make me happy. I want more out of my life.

I think midlife is wherever you think or feel it is. It’s the time in our life when what’s come before us is no longer acceptable. It’s that time when we come to the realization that there are more choices and ways to live our lives. It’s ironic really, when you think of the adage for young people entering adulthood — the world is your oyster — but many follow paths that have been prescribed to them, not necessarily discovered or chosen by them.

If you want to get all Jungian about it, James Hollis says, in Finding Meaning In The Second Half of Life:

..the middle passage occurs only when a person begins to discern that his or her repetitions, compensations, and treatment plans for life have their origin not in conscious life but in unconscious history.

Midlife gives us wisdom.

Instead of midlife crises, we have midlife opportunities.

Our life span today is longer than ever. There is a saying “50 is the new 30.” Now we have a chance for that second or third career. We can bring meaning and satisfaction into our lives and those of others. We can consciously create the life we want to live. We can have our midlife reinvention.

Photo by:Philwirks

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Friday’s Homework

by Lisa on February 18, 2010

Friday's Homework

Success.

What does it mean to you today? How did you view success when you were 20? What changed? What can you do to ensure your feelings of success 10 years from now?

Make sure you read yesterday’s article about the 4 Components of Success.

Photo by Éktor

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4 Components of Success

February 18, 2010

Success takes on different meanings at different times in your life. What you deem successful at 20 years old is different at 40; what you think at 50 will probably be different at 65.
Laura Nash and Howard Stevenson list 4 components of enduring success, in a Harvard Business Review article, Success That Lasts:

Happiness – feelings [...]

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Resiliency – Do You Bounce?

February 17, 2010

Resiliency. I think it’s something we’re born with. It’s ours to use and develop. It’s the ability to bounce back after a defeat. Or to successfully adapt to unplanned change. Resiliency is key to navigating midlife reinvention.
If you’re resilient, you’re likely to possess a positive demeanor. You make lemonade out of those lemons!
If you’ve ever [...]

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Are You Sweet or Sour?

February 16, 2010

Growing up I remember my Mother had a large framed print of the saying:
When life gives you lemons,
make lemonade.
It’s so simple — a cynic might say it’s even trite. But I love the simplicity of it. It’s a reminder that something good can come out of a difficult, seemingly unworkable situation.
How’s your lemonade tasting?

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8 Reasons Why My Clients Hire Me

February 15, 2010

I love this photograph of coach and player. The two are singularly engaged in dialogue. The player seems to absorb the words from the coach. The plan, of course, is for the player to put into action what he’s learned.
People frequently ask me about coaching. “What is it that you really do?”
My short answer:

I help [...]

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What Do You See?

February 11, 2010

Actors do it. Athletes do it. Musicians do it. And, it has nothing to do with sex, drugs and rock n’ roll!
It’s visualization — an extremely powerful technique that can bring success into your life. Whether you’re in search of a new job, have to make a speech in front of 500 people or are [...]

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Blizzard Buster

February 10, 2010

This may be a familiar sight to many of you .  About now you just might be getting a little tired of dealing with the snow and all the shoveling that accompanies it!   I live in the southwest, so I’m  experiencing it only through photographs and conversations with friends and colleagues in the deep freeze.
My [...]

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Failure — It’s a Good Thing

February 9, 2010

Sometimes, in order to grow, you fail. It happens to everyone. We all fail at something at some point in our lives.
If you’re in a place you’re not happy about, but you’re afraid to initiate changes to improve your situtation for fear of failure, it’s a terrible place to be.
Failure is a sign you’ve [...]

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